Creating Your Self Confidence

Are self-confident people as insecure on the inside as you? There are many people in your world that appear confident on the outside, but are relying on their Pretend to make it through the day. Now, the Pretend self is one of three selves that make up our personality.

First of all there is the Pretend self. This identity will fake it until you make it to manage life obstacles. Then, there is the Negative self. This identity focuses on all your negative habits and projects a detrimental image of the self. Lastly, there is the Authentic self. The Authentic self is the tender person you truly are at the core.

Because folks fear not fitting in, many people hide behind the Pretend self. It hurts to be judged by others. If you fit in, you won't be judged. It takes a lot of energy to live the Pretend self and over time, you forget how to be an Authentic person.

Now, the Negative self is fueled by insecurities. Certain actions bring the Negative self to the forefront. Like, when someone calls you a name, you become upset. Your Negative self actually believes that you symbolized that bad remark. In Change Your Life in Seven Days, Paul McKenna states, "Any negative traits you identify are not really yours - they belong to your negative self-image and were programmed into you when you were a child. By identifying them honestly, you can let them go."

Conversely, the Authentic self is whole and content identity deep inside you. This self is the one filled with joy when loved one are nearby; the one that harbors dreams and aspirations. This powerful self is unstoppable if it allowed to govern a person's actions. Permitting the Authentic self to take over is easy. But, you must identify the negative and false dialogues that Negative and Pretend selves are running. You have the opportunity to change your life. Start working on instant confidence using self help books such as Change Your Life in Seven Days. Once you've figured out how to get back on track to become happy on the inside, then you can move on to fix how other people treat you.

Be the person you want to be because the longest journey begins right where you stand. Roxanne has the Easy NLP and Hypnosis Workbook. Start using it today.

 

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